Wedding- Ann & Ged

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I’m a great one for thinking out loud.  As we went up to Ann’s room in the Glasgow Hilton Grosvenor before the wedding, I was chatting to Bea (Head of Housekeeping and Eucharistic Minister, no less!) about Humanist weddings and how much I enjoy what I do and I wondered, aloud, if I might ever tire of doing weddings, ever find them boring. At that moment, Ann came to her door, the two of us squealed with excitement, grabbed hands and started jumping up and down like a pair of weans.

‘I don’t think you’ve got anything to worry about,’ said Bea.

Fair enough.

Ann and Ged are the first local couple that I’ve married and it’s been a treat being able to pop in and see them for a coffee and be home in time for The Walking Dead.  Freakin’ love those zombies…..

Ged surprised Ann by proposing in their living room, just at Christmas past.  I think Ann had been waiting all her life to be married to her man so she didn’t hesitate.  Proposal in December, wedding in April?  Eeek! They didn’t leave much time to plan but they were clever- they were offered help by their friends and family and they took it!

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Ann’s amazing colleagues, girls who she sees as family, decorated the room, tables and made all the favours, name cards and the cake.  They were also super-keen to be part of the ceremony too and, between them, they wrote a heartfelt and funny tribute to Ann and Ged, and sang their hearts out, to the tune of Wonderwall by Oasis.  It was absolutely brilliant and, to a woman, they gave it their all.

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Ann couldn’t wait to be Ged’s wife and call herself Mrs Black but, on the day, she kept him waiting juuuuuuust long enough for him, and his best man, his cousin Derek, to start sweating!

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Ged’s eldest niece, Gemma, read The Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton, a reading I thoroughly recommend if it’s being read by a child, and she adapted it a little to suit her Auntie Ann and Uncle Ged.  Amy, the younger niece, helped with the handfasting and she did it so well- a wee practice in Ann’s room beforehand helped with the nerves.

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This was my favourite kind of wedding; one where it’s small enough to engage with all the guests, both with a bandwarming and some quality chat (turns out even folk from Greenock can be offended!) It was a fab wedding, exactly how they wanted it- relaxed, personal and fun.

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Congratulations, Mr & Mrs Black!

 

Just though I’d say hello and say thank you for the lovely words you wrote about our wedding on your website, the part about us jumping up and down when i opened the door to you made me smile so much and brought back the sheer happiness of our day. 
We will never forget the ceremony you gave us.

 

Readings: A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton and Today is the Day, Author unknown

Music: Processional: First Time Ever I Saw Your Face, Roberta Flack

Signing the Schedule: I Will, The Beatles

Retiral Music: Happy, Pharrell Williams

 

 

Wedding- Lizzy & Fee

Largs is (normally) a sunny little place, home to legendary ice-cream, fish and chips and, erm, Vikings. Today it was host to Lizzy & Fee and their extremely excited guests- these girls are just ADORED by all their pals. Everyone was in such a good mood for their wedding and the room was buzzing as they waited for the brides to arrive.

Marion at the Brisbane House Hotel was totally in charge, which was just as well because I was too busy being a goon.

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Fee and Lizzy’s ceremony was full of funny moments, honesty and shared dreams. They asked their friends Fraz and Barbara to choose readings, one they knew about and one that Barbara kept secret ’til the day.

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Fee and Lizzy were a lot of fun, and they entertained their guests with the story of how they met (in in the toilets of Polo), how they went on a date to play pool and it all went a little weird (Lizzy’s nerves) but how everything came right on the next date, a day (and night) of singing and laughing and chasing after a rapidly shrinking train.

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 “Fee and Lizzy could have continued to just live together but, for both of them, marriage is about making that commitment to each other and being with the person who they can’t live without, not just as their partner but as their wife.  Marriage is about building a family and a life with their best friend, about knowing that they are meant for each other and that they won’t give up when times are hard, they will always get through it, together.”

The importance of family, present and passed, was a strong theme for both girls. The candle in the background was lit in remembrance of those who were sorely missed from the wedding and the rings they exchanged held very special significance too.  In addition, Lizzy’s bridesmaid, Mandy, had given her the most thoughtful gift- three framed photos to hang from her bouquet so Lizzy could have everyone near her.

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I’m afraid I played a mean trick on Fee and Lizzy.  Throughout their story, there was a recurring phrase, ‘Go on, you know you want to!’.  It led to their first proper kiss and then, a few years later, to their engagement.  It was also shouted out loud by all their guests immediately after I declared them married and asked if they would like to share their first kiss as a married couple!  Brilliant!

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“When I asked you what you hoped for your future together, you both said the same thing- to continue to be surrounded by friends and family and in the future, to one day have a family of your own, to have a lifetime of love.  Most importantly, you just want each other to be happy.”

There was such a sense of anticipation for the Wedding of the Year and, although they were both nervous, Lizzy and Fee radiated happiness and love and everyone was right there with them.  It was obvious that this was just the beginning of a tremendous day for them all and, if the wickedly blue cocktails that were waiting as they left were anything to go by, the night time was going to be an absolute blast!

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Last October, I met Lizzy and Fee for our first meeting. I remember Fee had the worst cold, they had nearly been in a terrible accident on the way there and the weather was dreadful but, above that, when I got home, I remember telling Andy that I had just met the loveliest couple, not just because they were very much in love but because they were so excited about being married. What made their excitement extra-special was that our meeting took place just a few days after the Scottish Government had announced that the marriage law was changing in the new year. Lizzy and Fee were absolutely delighted, and a little overwhelmed, that they were able to be legally married, to properly call each other ‘wife’.

You can tell they are pretty pleased about it, can’t you?

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Gorgeous, gorgeous girls x

Readings: Love is….., poet unknown and I will be here, Steven Curtis Chapman

Music:  Stop and Stare, One Republic

Photos: c/o John

 

 

Naming- Mirryn

I really fell for Mirryn and her big brother, Brodie. How can you not be smitten with a teeny baby with mad, black hair who falls asleep in your arms, or fall for the charms of a bold boy with a sweet tooth and a cheeky grin?

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Kip Marina was a little grey and damp last Saturday but the Chartroom looked lovely: lots of pink and white balloons, a beautiful cake and, most importantly, a well-stocked candy cart.

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Mirryn waited until her ceremony started and promptly fell asleep! My run of non-criers continues unbroken…..

Mum and Dad were keen to include both their children but to keep the focus on Mirryn and there was no doubt that she was was centre of attention. Brodie was delighted there was a party, a bit over-keen on the cake and, for one day only, he was my boss, making sure that I was doing my job to his satisfaction. So, when he fancied raiding the candy cart mid-ceremony, who was I to object to a short sweetie break?

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The ceremony itself was a light mix of a few words about Mirryn’s little life so far and how important she is to her family, some beautiful and touching promises (from her mum and dad, guide parents and everyone else in the room!), her parent’s hopes and dreams for Mirryn’s future. We also heard a spirited reading from Grampa Mo and braved the cold for a very successful balloon release.  Mirryn’s Guide Parent, her Auntie Emma, read ‘Oh, The Places You’ll Go’ by Dr Seuss and, right on cue, Brodie let go of the first balloon, a signal to all his little (and big) pals to release theirs too, sending them rushing into the sky with all the dreams and wishes they have for wee Mirryn.

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Every guest was invited to write some words of wisdom in Mirryn’s guest book and also to pop their thumb print on a print for her nursery. All the small people left with a pretty bag of sweets and some seeds to sow in their gardens in the warmer weather.

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It was the usual slight chaos that I have come to expect (and love) about Naming Ceremonies but, to be honest, they would be rubbish (and very dull) if children were hushed or banished. It’s much better to accept the mayhem and to celebrate the inevitable madness when a dozen small people hoover up fizzy juice and haribo and then spy a shiny wooden dance floor to slide on!

I left with a high five from Brodie, a substantial bag of sweeties from the candy cart and a big smile on my face when I saw this boat as I was leaving. Result!!

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Are you getting married in Scotland this year? Read on….

From today (1st March 2014) the very latest you can submit your Marriage Notice forms, also known as the M10 forms, is 29 days before your wedding date. It used to be 15 days but no more.

Every person marrying in Scotland is legally required to submit these forms to the Registrar of the district in which they are marrying.

If you don’t submit your M10 forms on time, you will not be issued with a Marriage Schedule.

No Marriage Schedule = no wedding = a very expensive hangover.

In addition, if you, or your intended, is not a British, Swiss or EEA citizen, you must now complete a Declaration of Immigration Status form and submit it with your M10 forms. Your M10 forms will not be accepted if you don’t.

So here’s my suggestion to all couples who are looking to marry in Scotland:

Make a note in your diary, three months before your wedding, that your M10 forms are now able to be submitted. Then make an appointment at the Registrar and hand in your forms.

Job done, breathe easy and back to planning the fun stuff.

Please see the National Records of Scotland website for more details